Getting Directions

A little bit of light in the winter darkness.

Dear reader- You are a being of love. Created by it, made for it.

If that seems a long, long way from the circumstances in which you find yourself right now, it is possible that you took a wrong turn. Most likely, someone close to you gave you some bad directions. We also get bad directions from strangers and our culture. It is not entirely their fault, bad directions tend to be repeated by tradition and consensus. Someone takes a tiny nugget of truth and turns it into A Story. A Story with a protagonist and a moral and an antagonist. A Story that leaves out bits that didn’t seem relevant at first. A Story, but not the whole story.

Anyway, I left you a long, long way from feeling love without giving you the directions back home. Actually, I don’t have the directions for you to get back. I don’t know exactly where you are lost. But you do. Your heart knows the way back home. Never left it, in fact.

If you want your mind and body and spirit to join your heart, you are going to have to turn the volume down on the loudmouth, your mind, and listen to the rest of you.

What does your heart long for? If you get an answer like “a 1952 roadster” you haven’t turned the volume down enough on your thinking. Your heart is longing for feeling states: connection, security, joy. A material object might be a path to those feelings, but it is not the only one. And we don’t want to limit our options so early in the game.

Let your body get rested and relaxed. Then notice your gut. Is it twisted in knots? Full of butterflies? Find the things that let your gut be calm. Incorporate those things into your day.

Check with your spirit, what feels more free?

After you have input from your heart, gut, spirit- then, and only then, is the time to invite your mind to the party. Ask it “How can I do this?” The mind is a terrible master, but an excellent servant.

When all of our parts are working together, when we are aligned, the way home is not so confusing.

You are love. I am love. I will meet you there.


  1. Oh my, I so agree the mind is such a loudmouth. Listen, listen, listen to your gut! Been working on this recently, such a timely post. Thank you, it was a joy to read.

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  2. Fawn,
    Saving this insightful, meaningful and up lifting post, to enjoy re-reading. May print it off and place it a
    it one of my favorite locations – inside a kitchen cabinet door, where it is so easy to glance up often and re-read.
    Have a lovely holiday season.

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    1. Oh! I love this idea of putting something I want to read again inside a cabinet door. Just a lovely “Oh yes, my dear friend. Thank you for reminding me.” XO


  3. Adrienne- Thank you so much. I’m not sure I will come back to Quaker Stylist. I will keep writing, because I am one of those people who can’t not write. Currently, I’m writing a memoir. What will be interesting to me after that is still a mystery. Can you tell me what part of my postings you would like to see in the future?


  4. Hi Fawn,lovely to hear from you again. I would love to read your memoir, keep us all posted on that one.
    Life has been a bit challenging and I’ve found rereading your http://www.singlemomenough site reassuring. I’ve been writing down all the recipes and taking note of your capsule wardrobe again. It all helps me feel I can control my life in a world that is looking quite unsettled Plus it’s helping me release clutter. Your words give me that extra motivation and reasoning for releasing, on the days I lack it internally. I would love all that in a book form as a reference . I think others might too.
    And your posts on life and living are just so grounding and calming, like the above post,, when the world just looks plain crazy and it’s difficult to find balance. Fawn for me you are the voice of calm .And I have enjoyed your writing over the years. No matter if I’ve read it before it is always comforting to read again.
    I hope life is treating you and your family well.
    Adrienne in NZ
    Ps: What was the title of your book again on palliative care?


    1. Thank you for your kind words. The world can be overwhelming for me too. I am glad that my words are a help to you. I think that I am a writer to help me figure things out. That it might help others figure things out too is a delicious bonus! A Holy Errand is the title of my collection of hospice stories. It is available via Amazon. Thank you also for encouraging me to put singlemomenough in a book format. I had the idea to do that when I was writing it (and working full time and being a single mum) but didn’t have the time. Now that I have the time, I need to get to busy. Stop loafing and squandering my days in the pursuit of what’s joyful. πŸ˜‰


  5. Hi again I went googling and found your book and new life coach website.
    We have winter here in the southern hemisphere with flooding and snow in the mountains.
    So a good fire in the log burner and new words to read on your site. My day has improved. Thank you


  6. I am with the above comments. I too miss your writing and musings. As with Adrienne I also find them inspiring and calming. I was only thinking about your annual counts the other day and decided to have a bit of a clear out. There is still much to do, but at the moment I feel motivated to move forward and really try to minimise as much as possible. I can feel all those belongings dragging me down and I really need to feel free of them.I would like to soar like an eagle above all the chaos below. Thank you for all your past writing and for keeping everything still available for people to read. I would also be interested in your new book. Hope you and yours are keeping well.


    1. I miss you all too.

      I have been trying to think of something to blog about that is 1) of interest to me and 2) not already being covered all over social media. The only idea that comes to me is writing about the intersection of enough and sustainability. I’m thinking particularly retirement, enough and sustainability. Maybe with a title like: The Sustainable Pensioner.

      What do you all think?


  7. This pensioner in NZ thinks that would be great. I recently resigned from my 3 jobs and am concentrating on self care, listening to birdsong and reading good books. Plus quality time with true friends not mingling with masses of acquaintances. Life is feeling more real and peaceful. There will be some slow sustainable travel in there too.


  8. What a great idea. As another pensioner it sounds most interesting and knowing how well you write it will undoubtedly also be inspiring. I am eagerly awaiting the post!


  9. I am afraid I am someone else who is not on instagram. Had an account once but found it very time consuming. I will have to give it some thought if you decide to have your new space there.


  10. Hi I’m not on IG either and I’m barely hanging in on FB. Only joined to see good friend’s new baby photos, he’s (the baby) now 13yrs old. Can go days to a week without looking at it. So I’m very happy if you remain here πŸ™‚


  11. Dear friends- I have taken your comments to heart and started a new blog on WordPress. The website is still a hot mess: no way to subscribe yet, the button links are not active, etc. and my software assistant (i.e. my son) is not available until the weekend. πŸ˜‰ So, I will reserve my official announcement post until all is fully functional, but since you all were my motivation to do the work, there is a preview at I hope you all enjoy the new space!


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